During the lecture on adoption, I couldn’t help but reflect back on the years with my youngest brother who is adopted. He became part of our family when he was only a couple of days old and so we all tend to forget that he is even adopted. He’s even experienced this, such as when he went to college out of state & was filling out some medical information. About 15 minutes into the paperwork he realized, “Oh wait a minute. I don’t know all of this information really because I’m answering questions about my (adopted) parents — not my biological parents.” He has not felt the need to track down where he originated & has no doubt that he belongs in the family he is is.
Not everyone feels the same way. Many children have many questions, such as “Why was I put up for adoption?” or “What medical issues should I be aware of” or “Where are my roots?” Some people now have the option of having “open adoptions” where the birth parents are allowed to be a part of the child’s life and the child is allowed contact with the parents & information for the questions he or she may have. For some children and the birth parents this may be a good option. Others find some conflicts that arise such as confusing “boundaries” & expectations.
For more information about the pros & cons of open adoptions, there is an interesting site: http://adoption.about.com/od/adopting/a/whyopenadoption.htm