Being compassionate

I have a really close friend that i used to work with that was trasgender.  WE will call this person Mandy.  Mandy was married with two kids and a wife, at the age of 45 she finally decided to go to Thailand and get the full surgeory to become a woman. After becoming a woman Mandy’s family totally disowned her, she had gone most of her life trying to be a man but always feeling like a woman.  Her kids took two years to talk to her.  Whenever we go out to dinner or somewhere people look at her to try to tell if she is a man or a woman.  She has had a very hard time, and still has a hard time. When people at work found out many of the men had a hard time with it and teased her and made very innappropriate jokes to her.  I volunteer at the pride center,  and they try to teach tolerance.  If people were more aware and more compassionate then the suicide rates which are 31% of the group  would go down and people would be overall more accepting.  By the time a transgender is twenty 50% of them will have attempted a suicide.


april benincosa



~ by abenincosa on November 17, 2009.

8 Responses to “Being compassionate”

  1. That’s interesting because I know a woman who changed to a man and he works in a predominantly male occupation and his transformation has gone a lot smoother than those of mtf. Even in his family as well.

    Scott Montgomery

  2. That’s pretty rough. I know that I don’t have any personal ties to those who aren’t transgender, but i’ve seen quite a few television programs on transgender individuals. Their lives seem pretty tough enough when they’re able to tell their families and seem even tougher when they’re seen in public as something that should be scoffed at. Tough deal.

    -James Frost

  3. I can understand how difficult it is for society to accept the trans-gender individual. It is tough to expect that everyone will automatically or even over a period of time (generally a short time if not more) accept the person. The fact that transsexuals are so different from non-transsexuals makes it very different, not even on a moral basis, but just the feeling that someone gets when they see someone like that. My hope is that everyone can at least respect transsexuals, but I think that it will be very difficult to see people eventually ever understanding them, which as a result, will continue to pose difficulties, etc.


  4. Wow! I cannot believe those statistics. Well, I mean, I can…it’s just that it’s so amazing how shallow and disrespectful people can be. Why are we (the LGBTQ community) so threatening to you (those against everything we stand for)??? Why can’t you do your thing, and we’ll do ours? As long as no one is hurting anyone, why should it be a big deal?

    Marissa Hayes

  5. Those statistics are reliable, I’m afraid.

    That’s why some psychologists favour the use of coercive techniques in children to prevent then from displaying symptoms of transsexuality later. Better severe lifelong psychological distress than the way they’re treated at the moment. Though it’s getting better, slowly, and it depends where you live, and how “passable” you are.

    Others try to change the view of society, often by commenting on blogs. Be they on military history, local politics, or child development.

  6. Those stats are high. It’s sad that if you don’t agree with something it’s become acceptable to treat others that way. We should love the person and treat them the way we want to be treated no matter how we feel about their choices.

    Whitney J Kerr

  7. With all respect, where did these stats come from? They seem a little high…

    Also, I do not understand society. I agree with Marissa in that why would anyone care what others are doing as no ones rights are being violated and no one is getting hurt. Everything is difficult enough, and I cannot imagine someone being ridiculed for being who they believe they are. So messed up.

    Kellie Gibson

  8. Those numbers are really scary! Society has a huge problem with tolerance, and it is unfortunate that certain groups get the brunt of the negativity.
    Rebekah Pinegar

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