Teenage Parents and Insecure Children (post 3)

    In the United States it has become quiet common to see young children with teenage parents. Although most teenage parents can raise their child, there are still issues with the child having insecure attachments.  As we have been discussing the last few weeks in lecture, there are secure attachments and insecure ones which dictate how the child reacts with others and feels within themselves. Teenage parents raising a child have many more  obstacles than older parents may have. Due to some of these obstacles it is more likely for a child from teenage parents to develop insecure attachments that it is for others.

    Teenagers who have children have issues that they are dealing with that an older adult parent is not. Teenager are usually not well  informed with all the useful knowledge on how to bond with their child or how to sufficiantly take care of their needs. (kangaroo care, baby wearing, ect. )Yes, they do know basic knowledge of changing diapers and feeding, but a growing infant still requires much more. In our lectures we discussed how crying is an infants way of communicating to their caregiver that they need something. Teenagers may mistake crying as a normal thing that infants do and may not be solving the infant’s problems. After a while, teenagers may get frustrated with their crying and feel that it would be best if they just “cried it out” rather than pick them up and figure out what is wrong each and every time their baby cries.

    Teenage parents are also faced with the decision of finishing school or taking on a full time job so they can financially take care of themselves and their child. During those hours that they are away, they most likely will have to put their child in a day care or hire a babysitter to look after them, Because teenage parents can not afford the best day care or babysitting options, their children are most likely left in a lower standing environment or day care center.  When that parent returns from work or school it is very common for them to feel too tired to fully interact with their child. This takes away time that the parent can be forming an attachment to their child and visa versa. The child’s uncertainty of whether their parent will be there or not can resort in the child feeling unlovable and can introduce the fear that their parent might not come back for them one day.

    Along with these issues, a teenage parent is usually not mature enough to deal with being a parent and still a teenager at the same time. Teenagers are often not fully secure themselves and may still be looking for that security. With this the unstable child and parent relationship may never form to being a secure one. Now I am not saying that all children from teenage parents will have these problems, many teenage couples can do a good job of raising their child to have a secure attachement. I am merely stating that teenage parents have different situations that they have to deal with that may interfere with their child forming that secure attachment with them.

 

Sources:

Berk, Childhood Development, 8th edition

 

By: Ashley Crawford

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~ by crawfordashley on September 29, 2009.

2 Responses to “Teenage Parents and Insecure Children (post 3)”

  1. I find this subject to be quite intriguing, I have seen the difference it can make with the same mother raising her two children. My friend had her first child at the age of 17 with a dad who ran off and left her to raise their child on her own. Her parents were quite supportive. However from my observations he is anxiously attached to her, even now at the age of 6. His younger sister who was born when she was a bit older and whose father stayed in the picture has a secure attachment. So I do find that maturity level can play a huge part in attachment just from personal experience so I enjoyed your post!

  2. This issue continues to be unaddressed due to it’s ultimate controversy. In my opinion it is often, not always, but often an unhealthy and precarious environment to raise a child in. As mentioned above, many teenagers are insecure themselves and as a result are hardly in a position to care for an infant if they are unable to take care of themselves.

    Below are a few links to related arguments:

    http://www.teen-pregnancy.info/enviro-teen-pregnancy.php
    http://www.prcdc.org/files/Latina_Teen_Pregnancy.pdf

    Personally, my main concern is the recurring limited access to health care for children. If a child is unable to maintain physical health, how is it that they will fully develop on a mental level and continue to develop throughout life.. such a concern.

    Kellie Gibson

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