Please, spoil the baby.

In light of the new information we have received on Attachment and its critical importance to the development of infants, one must questions the association with Ethological theory. Attachment is a strong emotional bond that develops between the child and the caregiver, thus providing emotional and physical security to the infant. The relationship formed between the parent and child at this point is supported by a history of consistent and responsive care given by the parent, in turn creating a secure base for the child. This is where Ethological theory arises. The question becomes one of ‘should we spoil the baby’. The answer is no. This being that it is seen as ineffective to spoil an infant. At this time, essentially all negative sensation that the child understands is ‘hungry,’ ‘thirsty,’ ‘tired,’ ‘painful,’ and ‘uncomfortable.’ If the child is crying, it is often one of these alternative feelings. Thus, if the infant reaches out to the caregiver, and the caregiver fails to respond, the child will learn to understand that the caregiver is indifferent to communication with the child, in turn sending the message that communication is ineffective. The infant trusts the adult caregiver with its most vital needs: eating, sleeping, and comfort, and if these needs are not met, there can be considerable consequences.

Consider the Ethological Attachment theory as you view the link below….

“The most well known of these is imprinting, the early following behavior of certain baby birds that ensures that the young will stay close to the mother, and be fed, and protected from danger. Observations by ethologists have shown that several aspects of children’s social behavior, including emotional expressions, cooperation, and social play, resemble those of our primate ancestors. According to the ethological view, babies are biologically prepared to contribute actively to establish a bond with their caregivers, which promotes the chances for their individual genes to survive. Since ethologists believe that children’s behaviors can be best understood in terms of their adaptive value, they seek a full understanding of the entire organism-environment system, including physical, social, and cultural aspects (Hinde,1989). ”

Expressed is the theory that children not only need interaction, or exploration, with the world around them, but they need the support of their caregiver to do so. Necessary for this is communication. If communication is ineffective or absent, emotional growth is hard to come by. So, in short, please spoil your baby in the effort to prevent hazardous results.

Kellie Gibson


~ by alicefairinloveandwar on September 20, 2009.

3 Responses to “Please, spoil the baby.”

  1. I would agree that children need love and attention. Interactions and caring, however, children also like animals feel safe and secure when they have disciplilne. So as not to confuse giving your child love and attention, it is still ok to say no and set boundries so you don’t get a materialistic child!!

  2. It is somewhat sad that “spoiling” your child means to provide he/she with love, attention, support, and communication. If a child is not spoiled growing up, does that mean they didn’t get a sufficient amount of the necessities listed above??? I think not.

    Marissa Hayes

  3. It seems crazy to me that parents would actually let their baby cry for long periods of time without satisfying their needs so they wouldn’t end up being a “spoiled baby”. Crying is a babies only form of communication so if it’s crying something is wrong.

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